Its a common fashion these days to have maids.In many homes they do all kinds of chores from cleaning, cooking and washing and even baby sitting. Maids come from various places.Local maids are few as they are unreliable according to sources.So, many maids come from neighbouring countries like Sri Lanka, India, Bangladesh and Nepal as well.
Most of the maids are being treated very well and also have a good reputation for being loyal and hardworking.However recently maids hunting jewellery and money in their owners coffers are on the rise.This is not a fault of maids alone,but those keping them as well.In most cases I have heard, maids are given too much authority over the daily running of house.They are given the keys of all rooms and they can go in and out of all rooms easily at any time.As most house owners are busy working, maids enjoy the ownership they are given and their desire of being rich overwhelms the loyalty and honesty for their owners. They then poke in to valuables and start cheating and stealing.In a case i got informed, one maid even went on selling food stuffs to friends which are kept in the house store room.They also are very peeeky and collect jewellerires left in the rooms too.I think we have to have boundaries and restrictions for maids and they should not be given the whole house to rule.Instead rules have to be made for them on how they should work.
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Thursday, September 6, 2007
inheritance of loss
Im fed up of hearing the governments lack of support to students abroad, on various government scholarships.Some are complaining of low quality education. I got most complains from students studying in India.Many are complaining about low standard in some colleges.Mainly its English standard and facilities such as laboratories and internet and even food and accomodation.Some times when we say India the government seniors think its cheap. But its not so, if we consider a city like New Delhi, the capital. In Delhi, cost of living is high as standard of living is also high.However government scholars in some parts of india get a pocket money of 200 US dollars while some in Delhi get only 100.Also Delhi is a place where warm clothing is required and even though students live on hostels food is not upto standard.It is so unfair when they get a scholarship and go abroad and their parents supporting them. After all a scholarship is given on merit and its not supposed to be given on mercy or inherited. Well whatever the case it is by getting a government scholarship they inherit so many losses and government must always give priority for high quality education and make sure to provide enough pocket money to suffice the needs of the scholars.After all its an investment for future and quality matters, especially interms of knowledge gained.Mind you an Indian professor told me you get oneroom Universities in India which can sell you Phd and masters. No wonder why so many people have 3 or 4 masters and Mphils, what a joke.But I really appreciate Some Indian Universities and institutes with world class education. but it never comes cheap, so lets not make cheap as an option as these scholars will be our future leaders.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
LOVE
what is love?is there anything as such?Is it a mere attraction or just a desire.Sometimes its hrad to tell waht it is.They say love is blind.Yes thats true, but is it love which is making us blind or is it a selfish desire to fullfill ones needs.Yes love for most people is a mixture of sex and feelings.Is missing someone or yearning to be with some one a sign of love.May be its the hunger in us or our instincts about fullfilling our sexual desires.isnt it more like love.Once this desire is fullfilled and the taste of love is being indulged it doesnt matter anymore.So love is not a commitment to someone in my opinion.Its a commitment to your feelings and your desire to conquer your own self.But why is it that its always a special someone we yearn for? May be its someone today, and another person tomorrow and yet a differernt person yesterday.But at a particular instant its always just one single person we desire, or we yearn for.So love is not a phenomenon that happens as in the ROMEO and JULIET, but rather a creation of one's mind's eye.Its just like a picture in our mind.We can colour it in anyway we want and we can erase it off and reinvent it and repeat it as often as we desire. Is there anything as true love, or giving your heart to some one you love.Im not sure whetehr youll agree, but its not just one person you can give your heart or you can love and neither is it a lifetime feeling.
Scientific TALE OF LOVE
Scientists are finding that, after all, love really is down to a chemical addiction between people
OVER the course of history it has been artists, poets and playwrights who have made the greatest progress in humanity's understanding of love. Romance has seemed as inexplicable as the beauty of a rainbow. But these days scientists are challenging that notion, and they have rather a lot to say about how and why people love each other.
The scientific tale of love begins innocently enough, with voles. The prairie vole is a sociable creature, one of the only 3% of mammal species that appear to form monogamous relationships. Mating between prairie voles is a tremendous 24-hour effort. After this, they bond for life. They prefer to spend time with each other, groom each other for hours on end and nest together. They avoid meeting other potential mates. The male becomes an aggressive guard of the female. And when their pups are born, they become affectionate and attentive parents. However, another vole, a close relative called the montane vole, has no interest in partnership beyond one-night-stand sex. What is intriguing is that these vast differences in behaviour are the result of a mere handful of genes. The two vole species are more than 99% alike, genetically.
Why do voles fall in love?
The details of what is going on—the vole story, as it were—is a fascinating one. When prairie voles have sex, two hormones called oxytocin and vasopressin are released. If the release of these hormones is blocked, prairie-voles' sex becomes a fleeting affair, like that normally enjoyed by their rakish montane cousins. Conversely, if prairie voles are given an injection of the hormones, but prevented from having sex, they will still form a preference for their chosen partner. In other words, researchers can make prairie voles fall in love—or whatever the vole equivalent of this is—with an injection.
Love, love me do
Scanning the brains of people in love is also helping to refine science's grasp of love's various forms. Helen Fisher, a researcher at Rutgers University, and the author of a new book on love*, suggests it comes in three flavours: lust, romantic love and long-term attachment. There is some overlap but, in essence, these are separate phenomena, with their own emotional and motivational systems, and accompanying chemicals. These systems have evolved to enable, respectively, mating, pair-bonding and parenting.
Lust, of course, involves a craving for sex. Jim Pfaus, a psychologist at Concordia University, in Montreal, says the aftermath of lustful sex is similar to the state induced by taking opiates. A heady mix of chemical changes occurs, including increases in the levels of serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin and endogenous opioids (the body's natural equivalent of heroin). “This may serve many functions, to relax the body, induce pleasure and satiety, and perhaps induce bonding to the very features that one has just experienced all this with”, says Dr Pfaus.
Then there is attraction, or the state of being in love (what is sometimes known as romantic or obsessive love). This is a refinement of mere lust that allows people to home in on a particular mate. This state is characterised by feelings of exhilaration, and intrusive, obsessive thoughts about the object of one's affection. Some researchers suggest this mental state might share neurochemical characteristics with the manic phase of manic depression. Dr Fisher's work, however, suggests that the actual behavioural patterns of those in love—such as attempting to evoke reciprocal responses in one's loved one—resemble obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
That raises the question of whether it is possible to “treat” this romantic state clinically, as can be done with OCD. The parents of any love-besotted teenager might want to know the answer to that. Dr Fisher suggests it might, indeed, be possible to inhibit feelings of romantic love, but only at its early stages. OCD is characterised by low levels of a chemical called serotonin. Drugs such as Prozac work by keeping serotonin hanging around in the brain for longer than normal, so they might stave off romantic feelings. (This also means that people taking anti-depressants may be jeopardising their ability to fall in love.) But once romantic love begins in earnest, it is one of the strongest drives on Earth. Dr Fisher says it seems to be more powerful than hunger. A little serotonin would be unlikely to stifle it.
* “Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, by Helen Fisher. Henry Holt and Company, New York.
Scientific TALE OF LOVE
Scientists are finding that, after all, love really is down to a chemical addiction between people
OVER the course of history it has been artists, poets and playwrights who have made the greatest progress in humanity's understanding of love. Romance has seemed as inexplicable as the beauty of a rainbow. But these days scientists are challenging that notion, and they have rather a lot to say about how and why people love each other.
The scientific tale of love begins innocently enough, with voles. The prairie vole is a sociable creature, one of the only 3% of mammal species that appear to form monogamous relationships. Mating between prairie voles is a tremendous 24-hour effort. After this, they bond for life. They prefer to spend time with each other, groom each other for hours on end and nest together. They avoid meeting other potential mates. The male becomes an aggressive guard of the female. And when their pups are born, they become affectionate and attentive parents. However, another vole, a close relative called the montane vole, has no interest in partnership beyond one-night-stand sex. What is intriguing is that these vast differences in behaviour are the result of a mere handful of genes. The two vole species are more than 99% alike, genetically.
Why do voles fall in love?
The details of what is going on—the vole story, as it were—is a fascinating one. When prairie voles have sex, two hormones called oxytocin and vasopressin are released. If the release of these hormones is blocked, prairie-voles' sex becomes a fleeting affair, like that normally enjoyed by their rakish montane cousins. Conversely, if prairie voles are given an injection of the hormones, but prevented from having sex, they will still form a preference for their chosen partner. In other words, researchers can make prairie voles fall in love—or whatever the vole equivalent of this is—with an injection.
Love, love me do
Scanning the brains of people in love is also helping to refine science's grasp of love's various forms. Helen Fisher, a researcher at Rutgers University, and the author of a new book on love*, suggests it comes in three flavours: lust, romantic love and long-term attachment. There is some overlap but, in essence, these are separate phenomena, with their own emotional and motivational systems, and accompanying chemicals. These systems have evolved to enable, respectively, mating, pair-bonding and parenting.
Lust, of course, involves a craving for sex. Jim Pfaus, a psychologist at Concordia University, in Montreal, says the aftermath of lustful sex is similar to the state induced by taking opiates. A heady mix of chemical changes occurs, including increases in the levels of serotonin, oxytocin, vasopressin and endogenous opioids (the body's natural equivalent of heroin). “This may serve many functions, to relax the body, induce pleasure and satiety, and perhaps induce bonding to the very features that one has just experienced all this with”, says Dr Pfaus.
Then there is attraction, or the state of being in love (what is sometimes known as romantic or obsessive love). This is a refinement of mere lust that allows people to home in on a particular mate. This state is characterised by feelings of exhilaration, and intrusive, obsessive thoughts about the object of one's affection. Some researchers suggest this mental state might share neurochemical characteristics with the manic phase of manic depression. Dr Fisher's work, however, suggests that the actual behavioural patterns of those in love—such as attempting to evoke reciprocal responses in one's loved one—resemble obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD).
That raises the question of whether it is possible to “treat” this romantic state clinically, as can be done with OCD. The parents of any love-besotted teenager might want to know the answer to that. Dr Fisher suggests it might, indeed, be possible to inhibit feelings of romantic love, but only at its early stages. OCD is characterised by low levels of a chemical called serotonin. Drugs such as Prozac work by keeping serotonin hanging around in the brain for longer than normal, so they might stave off romantic feelings. (This also means that people taking anti-depressants may be jeopardising their ability to fall in love.) But once romantic love begins in earnest, it is one of the strongest drives on Earth. Dr Fisher says it seems to be more powerful than hunger. A little serotonin would be unlikely to stifle it.
* “Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, by Helen Fisher. Henry Holt and Company, New York.
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
a dream come true
I was awakened by the warm sunshine
Glistening through the window
I walked alone and sank in to a deep pond
I was suddenly bathing in the water
I plunged deeper and deeper
my senses got awakened and I got revived from a bitter past
suddenly I heard a noise and was awake
Yes I was dreaming
but its so real and a dream came true in a dream
Glistening through the window
I walked alone and sank in to a deep pond
I was suddenly bathing in the water
I plunged deeper and deeper
my senses got awakened and I got revived from a bitter past
suddenly I heard a noise and was awake
Yes I was dreaming
but its so real and a dream came true in a dream
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
resignations and hullabaloo
well its nothing new, but it came like thunder and lightening.Well it was quite unfortunate for me to be away from this hullabaloo.I was on an island on an official business.It was fun to be there and had done things I never dreamt of.Of course islandness and smallnes is nothing new for me. well one of the most striking feature of an island is walls.Huge walls are built everywhere, making the island look like a concrete jigsaw.May be this is the only way to show the islands is developed and beautiful to the eyes of an alien.But its whats beyond the walls which matters most.Behind the brightly painted walls is suffering and nightmares. But to an alien it seems that behind a beautiful wall is a hidden treasure and remarkable beauty.Can we ever stop these walls and try to show the reality behind the walls.
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Chewing betel leaves and arec nuts
Do you know that the most consumed agricultural product of Maldives is betel leaves.
yes it is, and if you walk near the hotels in Male' you may see red coloured spit across the pavement and it may be appelaing for someone who doesnt know much about this habit.You could get see amazing shapes and sizes of red coloured spit.Sometimes i wonder whether we can promote it as a form of art.Dentists cry out that its causing gum disease in our people. Yet it is believed that it improves digestion and freshens mouth.Also betel leaves provides a good source of income for some islands like Nolhivarn in Hdh Atoll.
About BETEL LEAVES
The betel plant is called nagvalli in sanscrit language meaning serpentine growth. The betel plant is a slender creeper which has alternate, heart shaped, smooth, lustrous dark green leaves with pointed apex. Leaves are edible part of plant which is bitter in taste but aromatic. A cultivated taste creates pan lovers but overeating leads to addiction.
Betel leaf is in use from ancient times as a digestive edible. It is anti-flatulent and mouth freshener. It induces secretion of saliva and digestive juices and generates peristaltic wave which is very important for digestion. It helps digestive tract in functioning well.
Betel leaf is considered aphrodisiac i.e. an agent which stimulates sexual desire. It is a common practice to offer masalapan to newly married couple before retiring to bed. It adds to love making and pleasures is a common belief.
It has a diuretic property also. Betel leaf juice given with milk or honey helps in easing urination.
One ayurvedic school has suggested use of betel leaf in aches and pains, especially nervous in origin. It has analgesic and cooling properties.
THE NEWZEALND HEALTH NETWORK
yes it is, and if you walk near the hotels in Male' you may see red coloured spit across the pavement and it may be appelaing for someone who doesnt know much about this habit.You could get see amazing shapes and sizes of red coloured spit.Sometimes i wonder whether we can promote it as a form of art.Dentists cry out that its causing gum disease in our people. Yet it is believed that it improves digestion and freshens mouth.Also betel leaves provides a good source of income for some islands like Nolhivarn in Hdh Atoll.
About BETEL LEAVES
The betel plant is called nagvalli in sanscrit language meaning serpentine growth. The betel plant is a slender creeper which has alternate, heart shaped, smooth, lustrous dark green leaves with pointed apex. Leaves are edible part of plant which is bitter in taste but aromatic. A cultivated taste creates pan lovers but overeating leads to addiction.
Betel leaf is in use from ancient times as a digestive edible. It is anti-flatulent and mouth freshener. It induces secretion of saliva and digestive juices and generates peristaltic wave which is very important for digestion. It helps digestive tract in functioning well.
Betel leaf is considered aphrodisiac i.e. an agent which stimulates sexual desire. It is a common practice to offer masalapan to newly married couple before retiring to bed. It adds to love making and pleasures is a common belief.
It has a diuretic property also. Betel leaf juice given with milk or honey helps in easing urination.
One ayurvedic school has suggested use of betel leaf in aches and pains, especially nervous in origin. It has analgesic and cooling properties.
THE NEWZEALND HEALTH NETWORK
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